Casey Carter
Casey Carter
Occupation: Sex and Relationship Educator
Location: Atlanta, Georgia, USA
The Sex in My Business: As a sex and relationship educator, sex is everything. My guiding principle is that our individual experiences influence what we believe to be true. I encourage people to embrace those experiences and do what is best for them, even if it contradicts expert opinion.
A Typical Day: There is no such thing as a typical day when juggling family, work, and the business of sex. Each day I try to learn something new that deepens my knowledge. I am often researching topics to discuss on my live show Casey@Night, which previously aired on Periscope/Twitter and is now available on GetVolk. Being present on social media is a must in order to be influential, so I share my own experiences — both personal and professional — in hopes of encouraging followers to communicate with their partner(s) and one another.
The Best Part: My favorite part of the job is interacting with my audience. When viewers engage not just with me but also one another during Casey@Night, I am reminded that there is an appetite to discuss sex. People want to engage and be heard. I have met fans at conventions who recognized me and waited patiently to say hi, and others who did not have the nerve to approach me but later said they saw me there. The group that brings me the most joy are the women who say they want to try wearing a corset because I make them look fashionable, or that they love the strength and sexiness I embody without having a petite figure.
The Worst Part: My least favorite aspect of this job are the challenges associated with the socially conservative movement that seeks to silence the “adult” community, of which sex educators are a part because of the vocabulary and imagery we use. The push to restrict access to information about sex in schools and to limit what can be presented in the media is counterproductive. Sex education in American schools is more about fear than it is about improving young people’s knowledge around sex, and it has left many young girls especially more confused and scared than empowered. In media (specifically social media), terms of service notices have evolved to a point that is dangerously close to restricting free expression. Under the guise of combating sex trafficking, all things related to sex are under attack.
How I Got Here: I started writing erotic short stories in 2008 and released the first one in late 2014. The stories were filled with strong female characters unapologetically exploring their sexuality, and included many of my own experiences and fantasies, which readers immediately connect with. Once published, I searched for ways to market and promote my work, and found that they were far and few between. This led me to start Casey@Night in January 2018, a livestream show where I read excerpts from my stories. I later began reading other authors and my audience grew. It was during the birth of Casey@Night that questions about the various scenes or subjects from the stories started flowing. It then evolved into a sex and relationship show that faithful followers look forward to each week.
What Society Thinks: My family and romantic partner are not only supportive, they ask questions, contribute ideas, and assist me. I grew up in a very sex positive household, so my work does not surprise my family. My mom proudly shares my photos and videos with her girlfriends, who bombard me with their own experiences, thoughts, and suggestions. The support makes what I do so much easier, because I know I never have to hide or pretend. Some people in my life do feel uncomfortable, but once they have made that clear to me, I respect their feelings and simply refrain from venturing down that road with them. Fortunately, I have not had any lasting negative experiences surrounding people’s reaction to my work. With those closest to me, life is the same as it has always been and our relationships are still intact.
When I’m Not At Work: I love to binge television shows I wouldn’t normally watch. I also catch up on reading magazines that have stacked up. Both of these activities frequently fuel new ideas, so there’s always a notebook nearby. But my favorite thing to do when I’m not working is to sit on the beach with an ice-cold cocktail or lounge at the pool with a fat cigar.
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